46. Report - Pedagogical impulses

Nagaraj leads the team of 5 here in Chitradurga for the promotion of people with different abilities. He has been serving the disabled for thirty years and has a clear image of humanity. When he gives teacher training courses on inclusion in the area, it is important to him that the disabled are not necessarily given preferential treatment. Instead, the teachers should learn to challenge the handicapped appropriately. - It is interesting to listen to him and to exchange views on abnormalities in children. In the morning I had seen a child in India for the first time who clearly had difficulties concentrating and whose behavior was unusual. Talking to Nagaraj I think it was an ADHD kid.

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But does that exist in India? Nagaraj agrees and notes an increasing trend in connection with stressed mothers. If a pregnant woman works and is mentally stressed, this also has an effect on the new life in her stomach. Even if the child is born and the mother does not give it enough warmth and relaxed calm, this triggers restlessness and insecurity in the child. The father can compensate for some things in this initial phase, but the child was created in the mother's womb and knows the mother's moods and vibrations very well. Therefore, when he is assigned children with such abnormalities, he first listens to the habits of the parents. Nagaraj looks concerned when I tell him that many parents in Germany simply treat ADHD with pharmaceuticals. I remember a very interesting TV report in which the affected parents were initially unable to question themselves and threw themselves into the helpful arms of the pharmaceutical industry. It wasn't until the end of the article that it dawned on the mother, at least, that the child's problem mirrored her own problems.

"Change yourself and you change the world."

But one thing strikes me about Nagaraj's interesting explanations: he speaks and knows so much that listening eventually becomes exhausting. It's like he knows everything and he wanted to explain everything to me. That's not good for me. Everyone wants to flourish and be important to others. Even a small or disabled child needs the experience that it has really gifted its parents, teachers, listeners.

Why do I find it so exhausting with my counterpart? Do I see my own problem in this? Am I like that myself and copying other people?

Despite the fruits of this pilgrimage: I still seek a lot of self-affirmation through great ideas, words, noble deeds, magic demonstrations... ! - The superficial EGO struggles and struggles to survive. We have the nicer self-experiences in us and only have to turn in the right direction.

"Beyond thinking there is great joy within us."

Once Nagaraj also talks about grandparents, who are gradually losing importance in the family in India because career-oriented children live somewhere else with their own families. And just like in my home country, something frightening is happening here too: parents hardly speak positively about their grandparents in the presence of their children. "But..." I blurt out that it's foolish of parents to make their own parents look bad in front of their children.

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Because it's clear: if the children see that their parents insult their grandparents, then they will internalize it. And now, as the parents grow old and weak, they will hear insults and disappointments from their own children. So it is better for us to give our children positive examples so that we can do well later on ourselves. For example, one could agree that when visiting the grandparents' house, everyone, including the strong parents, should follow the grandparents' rules. But when the grandparents come to visit, the rules of the parents apply. Isn't that practical? – Nagaraj does not yet know what he thinks of it.